I'll try to keep this breif! I've been with my current boyfriend for about 6 months and it's the best relationship I've ever had. I am 23 years old and he is my first true love. We get on really well and I've never felt this way before. There is only one thing which bothers me and occasionally causes arguments. I am not my boyfriend's first love. He had a relationship before lasting 2 years including living together.
His ex was from a different country and he was heartbroken when she moved home and they mutually decided to break up. I understand that everyone has a past, but his relationship with her is still very much alive. They message eachother almost every day and if I ask him about her he will say how amazing a person she is and how real and deep their relationship was.
We got drunk one night and he told me that he loves me hugely but he will always be in love with her too, and can't imagine his life without her in it.
As she lived here for a 2 years before leaving he also has lots of her stuff at his house, clothes, DVDs, books etc. He says she might come back to collect them at some point so he can't throw them out.
Something which really bothers me is that while they were together he was making an effort to learn her native language, and there are language sheets around his room which she wrote him, and he still has these stuck up on the wall even though they broke up a year before he met me, so 18 months ago now!
I suggested he take them down when we first got together and he got really defensive and said it shouldn't bother me, so I haven't mentioned it since.
He did tell me recently that she may be coming here to visit other friends in the summer and he would like me to meet her. I would like advice on wether or not to do this?
I love him so much and our relationship is so great. But I would be lying if I said it doesn't hurt me to see messages pop up from her on his phone (although it's tempting, I never read them). Is it possible that after they were so in love for 2 years they can really just be friends now? And can he really love me if he will 'always be in love with her'?